Open mouth ... insert BIG FOOT!

The morning started out perfect. Lin got up only a couple of times last night. We made it through the night with minimum of added morphine and I crawled into her hospital bed in the wee hours of the morning. Waking up next to Lin was great.

The day was even greater because she experienced no falls the day prior. Instead, she went to the airport to drop off Marlene to send her on her way back to Canada. No, she did not drive. Allison had volunteered to drive Marlene to the airport. With help from Art and me we got Lin into the truck, buckled her down, gave her some morphine and packed a bag of additional meds for her in case she needed them. They made it to Austin without incidence. She got to stay with her little sister until the last minute.

When they got home, Art pulled her out of the truck seat and we were able to get back in our home safely. Art and I had stayed home and managed to go to Home Depot and Lowe's only three times in two days as we placed the safety bars in the bathroom. This was no easy task. How do we place them, what makes sense, is there a 2x4 behind the wall....no there wasn't.

Well Lin got to test the install in the bathroom on her return, what a difference the right equipment can make. They worked wonderfully! Not because we did the work, but because she is able to help with transfers and we do not hurt her.

Sunday got even better. We got out of bed late, that was really nice. Teresa called from California, she is an old friend of Lin's from earlier 1980; it made her day. I made migas for the Canadian clan and we had a nice late brunch.

I got to get out for the first time in weeks! Lin had gotten a massage gift card from Mark and Genny for her birthday in January and had not used it yet. Marti came over to sit with Lin so I got to use the card to get a massage and boy did it feel great! Thank you Mark and Genny!

When I returned, Mark, Genny and Taylor were visiting. They brought over a nice chicken noodle soup. It was great; we had it for supper with a salad.

Today was an unusual day, much like Saturday. There were no major events scheduled or any that occurred by accident. Julie, Lin's Mom and myself were surprised at how quiet the day occurred.

We were sitting and watching television tonight. Lin made a comment about wasting time and not doing all the things that she had planned. Things like using the paint set she had and learning to play the guitar she has upstairs. Without thinking I made a very sarcastic and insensitive remark about how she could better use her time. Well shove a truck load of something in my mouth, I can never apologize enough for the stupid remark. Believe me, I tried.

We are now living a different life and what I say today, I may not be able to make up for it or change it tomorrow. I find myself thinking like I used to do. The cancer has robbed us of time. I have to change the way that I think, this is hard. We cannot plan past tomorrow, we have to live in the here, the now, today. I always thought that we would grow old together; reality has changed that. If I could change what I said today, the day would have been perfect. ...if I could change whatever caused the cancer to develop or to spread, then we could buy that condo by the beach and grow old together, now that would be perfect.