It is astonishing to me how much can take place inside of 24 hours. My family came over to cook and spend time with Lin, her Mom and me. Allison made a special delivery of dinner for Monday with desert. Bonnie, our weekday RN provided me with some new news.
Marti, her daughter from New Mexico, Felisha, Marti's son Art, his wife Erin, their son Alex, Dora, Eric, his wife Lori, their son Corbin, Julie, Lin and I all got together for supper. All the girls cooked up a storm, BBQ chicken, sausage, pasta salad, home-made beans, brisket, peach and blueberry cobbler, etc. There was enough food for what seemed an army. Everyone showed up around 4pm; Lin was already exhausted. She wanted everyone at the house, however tired she was. Dora got a plate of food to her, next thing you know Lin is feeding herself a helping of cobbler and ice cream, she skipped the main meal and went straight for the sugar.
Lin legs started hurting more than usual on Saturday. By Sunday they were aching her. This is being caused by the pressure on the nerve endings on her spine. She says it feels like someone is repeatedly stabbing her legs. The amount of oral morphine has increased. The amount of time that she is cognizant has decreased. By 8pm each night she has checked out. She will wake a couple of times throughout the night and in need of pain meds although the schedule calls for 8am dosages. I supplement oral morphine until I am able to give her the normal dosage of medications. I wish I had more training in this but it is pretty much play by ear and take some calculated risks. I call the RN on call if I am really struggling with what to do.
This morning I woke her early to give her oral morphine and she needed to go to the bathroom. Her knees are so banged up, they stay black and blue; her forearms along the bottom side have the same problem. In order to transfer her from the chair to the toilet she must pull herself up and spin around. With the power leaving her legs, they sometimes buckle and she hits her knees on the front of the toilet. Once she is ready to leave she must put all her weight on forearms to pull herself up and complete a reversal of the procedure once again. This is the same process each time she is ready to transfer to chair, bed, etc. This morning proved to be very taxing on her and she ran out of energy by noon.
When the RN came by today. She put in an order for an oxygen tank and a wheelchair sling.
I warmed up the Shepard's pie that Allison made us. What a treat, we all enjoyed it! Art came over to help me figure out how to use the hoist (the equipment usually is delivered and you have to figure out how to use it all). The first sling we put Lin into, did not work. She started slipping through the opening intended for use in the restroom!! The second one was smaller and worked better, however the harness used for the legs was causing her discomfort as it was digging into her from behind the knees. Marti brought over her sewing machine to make some padded covers, they worked like a charm. Dora and Julie swung into high gear to modify some of Lin's night wear so we can more readily use the new tool. It was like Santa's workshop.
The sling is allowing us to move Lin from the w/chair to another location by placing her on sling and then lift her on a hydraulic hoist and move her suspended in the air, kind of like a chair hammock on wheels. I put the oxygen on her tonight. Everything is changing so fast. It has been only 52 days since we returned from our vacation...all was well then.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Sunday, again.
Time seems to fly these days. Fran packed up and whisked away after a short visit. I went to the doctor's office for my own personal health issues. Lin had two uneventful showers. My sister Dora arrived to help out, she will be with us for a while. Lin and her mom were picked up for a tea and lunch. TK volunteered to watch Lin so Art could over to help me mend the fence and a couple of items that I have not been able to get to for while; we have an escape artist, Chickl'e. Marti came over, put down the top on the Mustang and kidnapped Lin's mom for a half day of shopping as she had not been out since she arrived. Lin received a beautiful bouquet of spring flowers and a magnificent gift certificate from my BA team! Betty came in last night and prepared one of Lin's favorite meals. JJ and Karen came over to join us for dinner - whew, just writing this makes me tired!
My sister Dora has generously volunteered to stay with us for as long as we need her help. I know this is a burden for her as she has her own life to live. Everyone has been so kind it still amazes us.
Linda came by to pick up Lin and Julie for tea and lunch. It took us a while to get her in the car, but she was able to enjoy a couple of hours with Linda, her husband and TK. She was worn out after two hours and had to come home. Lin spoke of the outing several times after she came home. She loved the style of Linda's home, said it reminded her of our favorite B&B at south Padre, Casa de Siesta.
TK stayed with Lin most of the day yesterday as Art helped me to mend our fence. We had to remove pickets to secure the railing to the fence posts with long threaded lag bolts. I think if a strong wind were to blow, it would have tipped over. You invest allot of money on a fence, however, you don't always get what you pay for. Thank you Art for helping me to secure the fence.
I am astounded by the amount of time that it takes to watch over Lin, still. Between transferring from her w-chair to the couch, to the recliner, to the bathroom, to the bed, outside, get her drinks, clothe her, give her meds, etc.; we cannot leave her alone. She does not have the strength to move under her own power so she is at our mercy to get her where she wants to go. I can only imagine how this affects her. TK - thank you for "sitting" with Lin yesterday.
Chickl'e raised a scuttle yesterday while we were working on the fence; that usually means that someone is at the front door. We received a lovely bouquet of flowers from my work team. What was even more surprising was when we went to open the card, we found a gift certificate from "Eat out In". It was our 8th anniversary of our Holy Union when we found out that the cancer was back. Needless to say, we did not celebrate. My sisters and TK announced yesterday that they will set our dining table and order us a nice meal so we can have a late celebration of our anniversary. Thank you BA TEAM, you have enabled a great memory!
My sister Betty came over last night and made Lin her favorite chicken recipe. The outing for lunch really wore Lin out the day before. I tried in vein to feed her the meal, but she kept falling asleep. She was awake enough to open her eyes fully when Dora made a deal with her though. Eat two more bites of chicken and she could have spice cake with cream cheese topping (thank you Suzanne!). Lin was like a little kid that had just been given the deal of the century. She took a few more bites, but fell asleep before the cake arrived. She woke up enough to insist that she have her cake. Well her mom got a kick out of trying to feed her cake. She had it all over the place! We put Lin to bed shortly thereafter. JJ and Karen came over and were discussing there impending wedding next Saturday. They look so cute together.
Betty stayed the night and made us breakfast. Lin awoke fully alert and ate all of her breakfast. We had a better morning, as I awoke at 7:00 to feed her morphine until she could have her scheduled dose of slow releasing morphine at 8:00. I think the secret is to keep the feeding her very small doses when she is active so that her pain does not spike. Once it does it is very hard to control.
It is noon and I am still in my PJs, again. I was finally able to take a shower last night at 1:00 am. Lin woke up at midnight and wanted to drink hot tea; timing is everything, this was when I was headed for the shower. More later tonight, Allison is on her way over...
My sister Dora has generously volunteered to stay with us for as long as we need her help. I know this is a burden for her as she has her own life to live. Everyone has been so kind it still amazes us.
Linda came by to pick up Lin and Julie for tea and lunch. It took us a while to get her in the car, but she was able to enjoy a couple of hours with Linda, her husband and TK. She was worn out after two hours and had to come home. Lin spoke of the outing several times after she came home. She loved the style of Linda's home, said it reminded her of our favorite B&B at south Padre, Casa de Siesta.
TK stayed with Lin most of the day yesterday as Art helped me to mend our fence. We had to remove pickets to secure the railing to the fence posts with long threaded lag bolts. I think if a strong wind were to blow, it would have tipped over. You invest allot of money on a fence, however, you don't always get what you pay for. Thank you Art for helping me to secure the fence.
I am astounded by the amount of time that it takes to watch over Lin, still. Between transferring from her w-chair to the couch, to the recliner, to the bathroom, to the bed, outside, get her drinks, clothe her, give her meds, etc.; we cannot leave her alone. She does not have the strength to move under her own power so she is at our mercy to get her where she wants to go. I can only imagine how this affects her. TK - thank you for "sitting" with Lin yesterday.
Chickl'e raised a scuttle yesterday while we were working on the fence; that usually means that someone is at the front door. We received a lovely bouquet of flowers from my work team. What was even more surprising was when we went to open the card, we found a gift certificate from "Eat out In". It was our 8th anniversary of our Holy Union when we found out that the cancer was back. Needless to say, we did not celebrate. My sisters and TK announced yesterday that they will set our dining table and order us a nice meal so we can have a late celebration of our anniversary. Thank you BA TEAM, you have enabled a great memory!
My sister Betty came over last night and made Lin her favorite chicken recipe. The outing for lunch really wore Lin out the day before. I tried in vein to feed her the meal, but she kept falling asleep. She was awake enough to open her eyes fully when Dora made a deal with her though. Eat two more bites of chicken and she could have spice cake with cream cheese topping (thank you Suzanne!). Lin was like a little kid that had just been given the deal of the century. She took a few more bites, but fell asleep before the cake arrived. She woke up enough to insist that she have her cake. Well her mom got a kick out of trying to feed her cake. She had it all over the place! We put Lin to bed shortly thereafter. JJ and Karen came over and were discussing there impending wedding next Saturday. They look so cute together.
Betty stayed the night and made us breakfast. Lin awoke fully alert and ate all of her breakfast. We had a better morning, as I awoke at 7:00 to feed her morphine until she could have her scheduled dose of slow releasing morphine at 8:00. I think the secret is to keep the feeding her very small doses when she is active so that her pain does not spike. Once it does it is very hard to control.
It is noon and I am still in my PJs, again. I was finally able to take a shower last night at 1:00 am. Lin woke up at midnight and wanted to drink hot tea; timing is everything, this was when I was headed for the shower. More later tonight, Allison is on her way over...
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Little things mean allot.
It has been unusually quiet for the last two days. It has allowed for us to reflect and to actually have a little fun.
Since the install of the rails in the bathroom, transferring Lin on and off the wheelchair has been a godsend. The tumor in her back is situated such that no matter how hard we tried, each attempt to aid her in the past, we would hurt her. The rails have been a wonderful addition to the regiment of artillery against her pain!
Lin got a hair cut on Monday. Joe, her hairdresser of thirteen years, came to house on his day off and cut and styled her hair. It is the same hair cut she has had for years, only shorter. We figured it would be allot easier to maintain. She looks really cute and sexy with short hair, Katrina confirmed it last night when she visited.
We figured out how to rig up the couch so she can lay in it. It had been her favorite spot to take a nap in the past, however, it recently had proven to be too low to allow a smooth transition. We took the cushions from the outdoor couch and and padded the living room couch. The cushions were Fran's idea, Lin's sister. We held them together with a sheet. She has been able to nap and rest peacefully as she had in the past, Prada and Chickl'e at her side, of course.
Fran cooked up a storm while she was here; it was a nice break for Julie as she has continued to address most of the household chores. Julie loves to wash! Each time I put away a load of clothes, another awaits me. Fran made a great lasagna last night, I even had seconds. Marti joined us for a late supper and brought over a bottle of wine that she and Fran shared. Lin has taken to Soy milk. She swears that it is a miracle drug. When she had radiation it had a negative effect on her esophagus and caused her to have bad heart burn each time she attempted to eat. She now enjoys a glass of soy milk with each meal and has been able to join us at meal time at the table.
Lin has had problems adjusting to the loss of use of her legs. She was saying the other day that you really can't appreciate how much you depend on them until you are no longer able to depend on them. She has her days when they are strong and she is happy, then there are the days that they are basically jello and useless...these are the days that a strong back and arms come in handy, but mostly an empathic ear.
I was able to spend the night upstairs the other night while Fran took the night shift from me. It felt good to sleep the night without waking every few hours. Last night I fumbled on the medicine. Marlene had been working as my quality check and she left for Canada already and Fran was too new onto the job. Well Lin usually gets two Ambien a night that she takes broken out so she can sleep throughout the night.
Lin fell asleep in the living room, 9:30 pm. Marti, Fran, Julie and I were talking about our day. Lin kept waking up and apologizing for falling asleep on us. Her norm lately has been to go to bed at 1:30 am. Each time she would wake up, she would take a circus peanut (those orange looking candies that are made from all sugar) and attempt to eat it; however, most often she would fall asleep again. She had us laughing with each new attempt. She woke up enough to become a comedian and placed two halves of the peanuts strategically on her chest. We laughed even more (see pictures). We finally talked her into going to bed early.
I went to check the medicine bin that I prepare almost daily with all her "cocktails". The two Ambien were missing! I forgot that they had changed the prescription to generic and the color of the pills had changed from white to yellow, they now looked like the Flexeril she was taking... No wonder she fell asleep! She slept well and only woke up twice in the night. Coincidence? I think not. Maybe...just maybe, we got some intervention...
As I lay there last night and listened to the super sonic train engine roar at a never before heard decibel due to a coma-like induced sleep, it made me think. Lin and I often spoke of how when two people meet it is not really them, but their "representatives" that meet. These "representatives" are kind, generous, and thoughtful; they don't fart, burp, have any bad manners, always say thank you and please. You used to know one, right? Then you move in together and the things that you used to think were sweet, you remember, "isn't it cute, you snore at night", now become the things that start to get on your nerves.
I laid in bed and pondered a future where the room is pitch dark and there is no snoring in the room, except, maybe only my own. I put in the ear plugs and was still lulled to sleep by the sound of Lin's rhythmic snoring, a sound I truly appreciate once again.
Since the install of the rails in the bathroom, transferring Lin on and off the wheelchair has been a godsend. The tumor in her back is situated such that no matter how hard we tried, each attempt to aid her in the past, we would hurt her. The rails have been a wonderful addition to the regiment of artillery against her pain!
Lin got a hair cut on Monday. Joe, her hairdresser of thirteen years, came to house on his day off and cut and styled her hair. It is the same hair cut she has had for years, only shorter. We figured it would be allot easier to maintain. She looks really cute and sexy with short hair, Katrina confirmed it last night when she visited.
We figured out how to rig up the couch so she can lay in it. It had been her favorite spot to take a nap in the past, however, it recently had proven to be too low to allow a smooth transition. We took the cushions from the outdoor couch and and padded the living room couch. The cushions were Fran's idea, Lin's sister. We held them together with a sheet. She has been able to nap and rest peacefully as she had in the past, Prada and Chickl'e at her side, of course.
Fran cooked up a storm while she was here; it was a nice break for Julie as she has continued to address most of the household chores. Julie loves to wash! Each time I put away a load of clothes, another awaits me. Fran made a great lasagna last night, I even had seconds. Marti joined us for a late supper and brought over a bottle of wine that she and Fran shared. Lin has taken to Soy milk. She swears that it is a miracle drug. When she had radiation it had a negative effect on her esophagus and caused her to have bad heart burn each time she attempted to eat. She now enjoys a glass of soy milk with each meal and has been able to join us at meal time at the table.
Lin has had problems adjusting to the loss of use of her legs. She was saying the other day that you really can't appreciate how much you depend on them until you are no longer able to depend on them. She has her days when they are strong and she is happy, then there are the days that they are basically jello and useless...these are the days that a strong back and arms come in handy, but mostly an empathic ear.
I was able to spend the night upstairs the other night while Fran took the night shift from me. It felt good to sleep the night without waking every few hours. Last night I fumbled on the medicine. Marlene had been working as my quality check and she left for Canada already and Fran was too new onto the job. Well Lin usually gets two Ambien a night that she takes broken out so she can sleep throughout the night.
Lin fell asleep in the living room, 9:30 pm. Marti, Fran, Julie and I were talking about our day. Lin kept waking up and apologizing for falling asleep on us. Her norm lately has been to go to bed at 1:30 am. Each time she would wake up, she would take a circus peanut (those orange looking candies that are made from all sugar) and attempt to eat it; however, most often she would fall asleep again. She had us laughing with each new attempt. She woke up enough to become a comedian and placed two halves of the peanuts strategically on her chest. We laughed even more (see pictures). We finally talked her into going to bed early.
I went to check the medicine bin that I prepare almost daily with all her "cocktails". The two Ambien were missing! I forgot that they had changed the prescription to generic and the color of the pills had changed from white to yellow, they now looked like the Flexeril she was taking... No wonder she fell asleep! She slept well and only woke up twice in the night. Coincidence? I think not. Maybe...just maybe, we got some intervention...
As I lay there last night and listened to the super sonic train engine roar at a never before heard decibel due to a coma-like induced sleep, it made me think. Lin and I often spoke of how when two people meet it is not really them, but their "representatives" that meet. These "representatives" are kind, generous, and thoughtful; they don't fart, burp, have any bad manners, always say thank you and please. You used to know one, right? Then you move in together and the things that you used to think were sweet, you remember, "isn't it cute, you snore at night", now become the things that start to get on your nerves.
I laid in bed and pondered a future where the room is pitch dark and there is no snoring in the room, except, maybe only my own. I put in the ear plugs and was still lulled to sleep by the sound of Lin's rhythmic snoring, a sound I truly appreciate once again.
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Open mouth ... insert BIG FOOT!
The morning started out perfect. Lin got up only a couple of times last night. We made it through the night with minimum of added morphine and I crawled into her hospital bed in the wee hours of the morning. Waking up next to Lin was great.
The day was even greater because she experienced no falls the day prior. Instead, she went to the airport to drop off Marlene to send her on her way back to Canada. No, she did not drive. Allison had volunteered to drive Marlene to the airport. With help from Art and me we got Lin into the truck, buckled her down, gave her some morphine and packed a bag of additional meds for her in case she needed them. They made it to Austin without incidence. She got to stay with her little sister until the last minute.
When they got home, Art pulled her out of the truck seat and we were able to get back in our home safely. Art and I had stayed home and managed to go to Home Depot and Lowe's only three times in two days as we placed the safety bars in the bathroom. This was no easy task. How do we place them, what makes sense, is there a 2x4 behind the wall....no there wasn't.
Well Lin got to test the install in the bathroom on her return, what a difference the right equipment can make. They worked wonderfully! Not because we did the work, but because she is able to help with transfers and we do not hurt her.
Sunday got even better. We got out of bed late, that was really nice. Teresa called from California, she is an old friend of Lin's from earlier 1980; it made her day. I made migas for the Canadian clan and we had a nice late brunch.
I got to get out for the first time in weeks! Lin had gotten a massage gift card from Mark and Genny for her birthday in January and had not used it yet. Marti came over to sit with Lin so I got to use the card to get a massage and boy did it feel great! Thank you Mark and Genny!
When I returned, Mark, Genny and Taylor were visiting. They brought over a nice chicken noodle soup. It was great; we had it for supper with a salad.
Today was an unusual day, much like Saturday. There were no major events scheduled or any that occurred by accident. Julie, Lin's Mom and myself were surprised at how quiet the day occurred.
We were sitting and watching television tonight. Lin made a comment about wasting time and not doing all the things that she had planned. Things like using the paint set she had and learning to play the guitar she has upstairs. Without thinking I made a very sarcastic and insensitive remark about how she could better use her time. Well shove a truck load of something in my mouth, I can never apologize enough for the stupid remark. Believe me, I tried.
We are now living a different life and what I say today, I may not be able to make up for it or change it tomorrow. I find myself thinking like I used to do. The cancer has robbed us of time. I have to change the way that I think, this is hard. We cannot plan past tomorrow, we have to live in the here, the now, today. I always thought that we would grow old together; reality has changed that. If I could change what I said today, the day would have been perfect. ...if I could change whatever caused the cancer to develop or to spread, then we could buy that condo by the beach and grow old together, now that would be perfect.
The day was even greater because she experienced no falls the day prior. Instead, she went to the airport to drop off Marlene to send her on her way back to Canada. No, she did not drive. Allison had volunteered to drive Marlene to the airport. With help from Art and me we got Lin into the truck, buckled her down, gave her some morphine and packed a bag of additional meds for her in case she needed them. They made it to Austin without incidence. She got to stay with her little sister until the last minute.
When they got home, Art pulled her out of the truck seat and we were able to get back in our home safely. Art and I had stayed home and managed to go to Home Depot and Lowe's only three times in two days as we placed the safety bars in the bathroom. This was no easy task. How do we place them, what makes sense, is there a 2x4 behind the wall....no there wasn't.
Well Lin got to test the install in the bathroom on her return, what a difference the right equipment can make. They worked wonderfully! Not because we did the work, but because she is able to help with transfers and we do not hurt her.
Sunday got even better. We got out of bed late, that was really nice. Teresa called from California, she is an old friend of Lin's from earlier 1980; it made her day. I made migas for the Canadian clan and we had a nice late brunch.
I got to get out for the first time in weeks! Lin had gotten a massage gift card from Mark and Genny for her birthday in January and had not used it yet. Marti came over to sit with Lin so I got to use the card to get a massage and boy did it feel great! Thank you Mark and Genny!
When I returned, Mark, Genny and Taylor were visiting. They brought over a nice chicken noodle soup. It was great; we had it for supper with a salad.
Today was an unusual day, much like Saturday. There were no major events scheduled or any that occurred by accident. Julie, Lin's Mom and myself were surprised at how quiet the day occurred.
We were sitting and watching television tonight. Lin made a comment about wasting time and not doing all the things that she had planned. Things like using the paint set she had and learning to play the guitar she has upstairs. Without thinking I made a very sarcastic and insensitive remark about how she could better use her time. Well shove a truck load of something in my mouth, I can never apologize enough for the stupid remark. Believe me, I tried.
We are now living a different life and what I say today, I may not be able to make up for it or change it tomorrow. I find myself thinking like I used to do. The cancer has robbed us of time. I have to change the way that I think, this is hard. We cannot plan past tomorrow, we have to live in the here, the now, today. I always thought that we would grow old together; reality has changed that. If I could change what I said today, the day would have been perfect. ...if I could change whatever caused the cancer to develop or to spread, then we could buy that condo by the beach and grow old together, now that would be perfect.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Third time is a charm?
It seems that each day, we experience some drama, maybe that is too bit of a strong adjective, but something is always happening.
I am so tired that I cannot remember what events took place yesterday. Oh, yes... Lin was feeling pretty good, so I left her with her mom and sister, Marlene. I went shopping. We needed basic supplies and I needed to go to the bank. When I got back Marlene confided in me that Lin had asked her not to tell me, however, Lin had experienced a fall again.
Lin had asked to sit outside, but was using her walker. Her legs act like jello allot and I almost have to force her into the wheelchair. Well she was trying to get up from her chair when her legs gave out. We usually insist that someone walk behind her. Marlene managed to catch her by her shirt and shorts and Lin got some cushion as she fell to her knees. Of course she was almost choked in the process, but she survived the fall.
The nurses aid came in today to give Lin her shower. I was sitting in the office working on a new spread sheet as her meds had changed again and I needed to put together a new schedule. We are juggling 15 different meds right now. I usually take the baby monitor with me where ever I go in the house (thank you Eric and Lori for the idea).
I was pecking away at the medical jargon, when I hear a shout through the speaker. I ran through the house and arrived at the second shout. I must have had a look of shock on face. Lin told me to take a breathe and help her up. She was getting dried off when she slipped on the bath mat in the shower. She fell with her foot twisted under her; the aid panicked and had backed out of the shower; it was she that had hollered for help. Lin managed to pull her leg out from under her.
When I saw her, she was sitting like a little rag doll in the corner of the shower, hands and legs at her sides. I immediately yelled for Marlene to help me, the aid was in shock. We managed to get Lin to her knees first and then onto the shower chair. She twisted her ankle badly. We are taking a picture of butt and posting to see who can win a contest. Who can name what Lin fell onto as it is now imprinted as bruise on the butt, it looks like a tattoo?
She is now committed to using the wheelchair.
Her sister Fran flew in from Canada today. Marti picked her up from the airport. Lin has been looking forward to her sisters and mom all being under one roof.
I went out and shopped for handicap railing today. I never knew it was so expensive! Art is helping me to figure out how to mount it in the restroom and shower. These should help Lin in her transition from the wheelchair into the shower, etc.
We had a dinner tonight to honor Lin's dad's birthday, Robert. Lin ate pretty well. Compared to last week when we could not get her to eat anything but milk shakes to tonight, it has been a big difference. Last time she was doing chemo for a year, Interferon, the only thing she would eat was two lobster tails every Friday. Tonight she ate some lobster and even a couple of bites of steak. We were all very proud of her. She even ate some German Chocolate cake, her dad's favorite.
It is almost 11pm and time for some personal time to myself.
Oh yeah, the "tattoo" was an imprint of the shower temperature control. As she was falling she grabbed for the handle and the temperature control handle fell off and she landed on it. It made for something for us to laugh about amidst of the apprehension of the accident.
I am so tired that I cannot remember what events took place yesterday. Oh, yes... Lin was feeling pretty good, so I left her with her mom and sister, Marlene. I went shopping. We needed basic supplies and I needed to go to the bank. When I got back Marlene confided in me that Lin had asked her not to tell me, however, Lin had experienced a fall again.
Lin had asked to sit outside, but was using her walker. Her legs act like jello allot and I almost have to force her into the wheelchair. Well she was trying to get up from her chair when her legs gave out. We usually insist that someone walk behind her. Marlene managed to catch her by her shirt and shorts and Lin got some cushion as she fell to her knees. Of course she was almost choked in the process, but she survived the fall.
The nurses aid came in today to give Lin her shower. I was sitting in the office working on a new spread sheet as her meds had changed again and I needed to put together a new schedule. We are juggling 15 different meds right now. I usually take the baby monitor with me where ever I go in the house (thank you Eric and Lori for the idea).
I was pecking away at the medical jargon, when I hear a shout through the speaker. I ran through the house and arrived at the second shout. I must have had a look of shock on face. Lin told me to take a breathe and help her up. She was getting dried off when she slipped on the bath mat in the shower. She fell with her foot twisted under her; the aid panicked and had backed out of the shower; it was she that had hollered for help. Lin managed to pull her leg out from under her.
When I saw her, she was sitting like a little rag doll in the corner of the shower, hands and legs at her sides. I immediately yelled for Marlene to help me, the aid was in shock. We managed to get Lin to her knees first and then onto the shower chair. She twisted her ankle badly. We are taking a picture of butt and posting to see who can win a contest. Who can name what Lin fell onto as it is now imprinted as bruise on the butt, it looks like a tattoo?
She is now committed to using the wheelchair.
Her sister Fran flew in from Canada today. Marti picked her up from the airport. Lin has been looking forward to her sisters and mom all being under one roof.
I went out and shopped for handicap railing today. I never knew it was so expensive! Art is helping me to figure out how to mount it in the restroom and shower. These should help Lin in her transition from the wheelchair into the shower, etc.
We had a dinner tonight to honor Lin's dad's birthday, Robert. Lin ate pretty well. Compared to last week when we could not get her to eat anything but milk shakes to tonight, it has been a big difference. Last time she was doing chemo for a year, Interferon, the only thing she would eat was two lobster tails every Friday. Tonight she ate some lobster and even a couple of bites of steak. We were all very proud of her. She even ate some German Chocolate cake, her dad's favorite.
It is almost 11pm and time for some personal time to myself.
Oh yeah, the "tattoo" was an imprint of the shower temperature control. As she was falling she grabbed for the handle and the temperature control handle fell off and she landed on it. It made for something for us to laugh about amidst of the apprehension of the accident.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Lin Update 10/9/08
It has been a while since I sent an update. I decided to create a blog to get you all updated and to make it easier for anyone to get the latest on what is happening in our lives. Please feel free forward the site to others who would like an update on Lin.
My last update to you was on 9/15/08; allot has happened since that time. August 18th Lin started started experiencing pain in her upper back that would not subside. By 9/08/08, the pain escalated to an uncontrollable level.
By 9/11/08, diagnosis confirmed metastases of the bladder cancer to include several lymph nodes in her chest cavity, a vertebra (it is also fractured), several spots in both lungs and a couple of growths on her scalp.
The prognosis is not positive as the doctor has communicated that the cancer is not curable, he described the cancer as terminal. There is a possibility that chemo therapy may prolong her life, however, quality of life is not guaranteed.
As Lin most recently spent a week in RR Hospital, she was released into our care with help from Hospice. The team assigned to Lin is very attentive and the R.N. has skillfully brought down her pain level to an tolerable "5" on a pain scale of 10.
We ask for you prayers as Lin is taking the weekend to think through her options of continuing with Hospice or taking the path of chemo. Presently, she has lost about ~50% use of her legs and is using a walker and a wheel chair to get about.
As many of you know Lin is a very independent person, the cancer has been hard on her health, the loss of her legs has been even harder to her independent soul.
I am limiting phone calls and visits as they are very draining of her energy. Please help us by limiting calls or visits from 7:30am - 10:30am (mornings are very hard for her and her nurse usually visits at this time); 2:00pm -3:30pm (nap time); and 8:30 pm or later. I understand that this does not leave a whole lot of time for calls or visits, however, I am greatly concerned with her pain level. I look forward to hearing or seeing you sometime in the near future.
So... calls and visitation are welcome" M-S 10:30am - 1:30pm, 4:00pm - 8:00pm.
As always, we appreciate your support and well wishes. We ask for your continued prayers and good thoughts.
My last update to you was on 9/15/08; allot has happened since that time. August 18th Lin started started experiencing pain in her upper back that would not subside. By 9/08/08, the pain escalated to an uncontrollable level.
By 9/11/08, diagnosis confirmed metastases of the bladder cancer to include several lymph nodes in her chest cavity, a vertebra (it is also fractured), several spots in both lungs and a couple of growths on her scalp.
The prognosis is not positive as the doctor has communicated that the cancer is not curable, he described the cancer as terminal. There is a possibility that chemo therapy may prolong her life, however, quality of life is not guaranteed.
As Lin most recently spent a week in RR Hospital, she was released into our care with help from Hospice. The team assigned to Lin is very attentive and the R.N. has skillfully brought down her pain level to an tolerable "5" on a pain scale of 10.
We ask for you prayers as Lin is taking the weekend to think through her options of continuing with Hospice or taking the path of chemo. Presently, she has lost about ~50% use of her legs and is using a walker and a wheel chair to get about.
As many of you know Lin is a very independent person, the cancer has been hard on her health, the loss of her legs has been even harder to her independent soul.
I am limiting phone calls and visits as they are very draining of her energy. Please help us by limiting calls or visits from 7:30am - 10:30am (mornings are very hard for her and her nurse usually visits at this time); 2:00pm -3:30pm (nap time); and 8:30 pm or later. I understand that this does not leave a whole lot of time for calls or visits, however, I am greatly concerned with her pain level. I look forward to hearing or seeing you sometime in the near future.
So... calls and visitation are welcome" M-S 10:30am - 1:30pm, 4:00pm - 8:00pm.
As always, we appreciate your support and well wishes. We ask for your continued prayers and good thoughts.
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
It wasn't your fault
Marlene and I have been the main care takers. My job has been to stay with Lin at night and figure our all the meds. Marlene's has been to tend to Lin wants during the day and help her Mom, Julie with household stuff.
I was busy after a visit from Bonnie, Lin's new weekday R.N. We had to change all her prescribed meds as I had to give her allot of morphine by mouth, morphine sulfate, numerous times throughout Sunday evening and early Monday morning.
I asked Marlene to help out and help Lin with her shower. We had been fortunate enough to have remodeled our bathroom several years earlier and built a large walk-in shower. Marlene donned her bathing suit and got in the shower to get the water ready. Meanwhile, "independent" Lin decided to get her own clothes out of the closet. The door bell rang, Chickl`e was going crazy as usual. The hospice nurse, director and a training aid had all come to the door. I went to get the dog and move him to the back room when next thing you know, Marlene is screaming and commotion breaks out. Lin fell backward from her walker. She struck her head, right where she had a new growth of a tumor and smacked the hell out of the tumor that sticks out on her back!
Everyone helped and we got her to the her bed. The nurse started with the morphine sulfate and gave her enough to finally knock her out. She slept most of the evening. She was in extreme pain.
My mom, sister Pat, her husband Ray and my sister Marti, all came by to visit. We got Marti to sit with Lin so we could go run some much needed errands.
Marti called, Art had brought over a brisket, beans and tortilla's, we did not need to worry about dinner. This has been a phenomenon, one day we got a happy face balloon and truffles, Allison made us a killer chicken pot pie, Terry and her daughter from down the street brought over a chicken, veggies and a coconut almond cake. Our friends from the corner, Judy and Ron brought over a pot roast and rolls and my reliable neighbor Burt brought us over a six pack of beer when we most needed it badly.
Lin looked to be in awful pain throughout the night. She finally awoke around midnight and wanted to sit in the living room and talk!
I was busy after a visit from Bonnie, Lin's new weekday R.N. We had to change all her prescribed meds as I had to give her allot of morphine by mouth, morphine sulfate, numerous times throughout Sunday evening and early Monday morning.
I asked Marlene to help out and help Lin with her shower. We had been fortunate enough to have remodeled our bathroom several years earlier and built a large walk-in shower. Marlene donned her bathing suit and got in the shower to get the water ready. Meanwhile, "independent" Lin decided to get her own clothes out of the closet. The door bell rang, Chickl`e was going crazy as usual. The hospice nurse, director and a training aid had all come to the door. I went to get the dog and move him to the back room when next thing you know, Marlene is screaming and commotion breaks out. Lin fell backward from her walker. She struck her head, right where she had a new growth of a tumor and smacked the hell out of the tumor that sticks out on her back!
Everyone helped and we got her to the her bed. The nurse started with the morphine sulfate and gave her enough to finally knock her out. She slept most of the evening. She was in extreme pain.
My mom, sister Pat, her husband Ray and my sister Marti, all came by to visit. We got Marti to sit with Lin so we could go run some much needed errands.
Marti called, Art had brought over a brisket, beans and tortilla's, we did not need to worry about dinner. This has been a phenomenon, one day we got a happy face balloon and truffles, Allison made us a killer chicken pot pie, Terry and her daughter from down the street brought over a chicken, veggies and a coconut almond cake. Our friends from the corner, Judy and Ron brought over a pot roast and rolls and my reliable neighbor Burt brought us over a six pack of beer when we most needed it badly.
Lin looked to be in awful pain throughout the night. She finally awoke around midnight and wanted to sit in the living room and talk!
Adjusting to home
Sunday was a day of adjustment. We had a new sleep schedule, and new medicine schedule to administer.
We were talking, but not talking about the obvious. Our lives were changed and would not be the same any longer.
Upon getting home on Saturday, we pulled a wheel chair up to the car to carry Lin in the front door. She then had to maneuver a new walker in order to make her way to our bedroom.
I am still numb. I feel distraught at times and wonder how life will be in a year from now and then I want to slap myself for even thinking in this manner. I just can't think of a life without Lin in it.
Lin's Mom arrived Sunday night.
We were talking, but not talking about the obvious. Our lives were changed and would not be the same any longer.
Upon getting home on Saturday, we pulled a wheel chair up to the car to carry Lin in the front door. She then had to maneuver a new walker in order to make her way to our bedroom.
I am still numb. I feel distraught at times and wonder how life will be in a year from now and then I want to slap myself for even thinking in this manner. I just can't think of a life without Lin in it.
Lin's Mom arrived Sunday night.
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