This is the first Christmas in nine years that Lin and I have not been together. This has been the worst year in both of our lives. My love has passed to another world and I miss her. I really thought that she would have been here this Christmas, even knowing that her illness had been given as terminal. We always thought we would have at least six months. Cancer knows no boundaries; it does not discriminate; it does not care who you are or what good you have done with your life; cancer consumes a person, their family, and friends.
I was glad my family was here today; but it just did not seem like Christmas without Lin. I woke up this morning knowing that I had to cook for the family as they were coming over to exchange gifts and take family pictures. Everyone was pairing up this evening as families or couples and posing for their pictures; my love was missing. The work of cooking took my mind off of Lin every now and then, but then again we used to cook together when we had company. I was the chef and she was the sous chef or visa-versa. Most of the time we would get into a tiff because I would tell her she needed to go in and take a shower and she would not listen and then she would be in a panic because everyone was due any minute and she would not have even taken a shower...how I miss those times.
Lori and Eric gave me a great gift for Christmas, it is the "American Idol, Wii" game. We all sang karaoke tonight and got critiqued by Simon, Paula and "The Dog". I actually won the competition between Erin, Alex, Art and I. Dora, Marti, Art (replaced by Erin) and I all played Rumicube tonight as well. Eric and Lori left early to get baby Corban to bed. Kandi, Don and Jonathan left shortly after dinner to head back to Devine (small town south of San Antonio). We all talked about the New Year's party that Lin and I hosted several years back. Lin had bought me karaoke machine as a Christmas gift. We used it that night and my brother-in-law, Ray sang Madonna, "Like a Virgin"! You have to understand that Ray is now ~72 years old and a real country type of a guy. We all laughed at the memory of Ray belting out that song after drinking a little liquid courage.
Lin got me. She knew me better than I knew myself. We had both been single for over four years each when we met. She was a breathe of fresh air. She was light hearted and I was serious. We were complete opposites. She often helped me to see things differently. She forced me to think twice. She made me a better person.
I went by Lin's grave yesterday and left her a dozen roses. They had already removed the Christmas ornament that I had left two weeks before. I had found a glass ornament in the shape of a surfboard; it had a scene of a beach painted on it. An oriental lady was there visiting a relative and singing Christmas songs in her native language. If Lin was present, I am sure she would have been asking for ear plugs.
Lin left me the best gift that she could have ever given me. I was walking around the house and looking for small trinkets that belonged to Lin as I was preparing a package for her youngest nephews with whom we had spent some time this summer on our vacation. I looked in a drawer and I found a small spiral; it was her Gratitude book. I had no idea that she had written in one. As it was near the back door, I would have to guess that she used to write in it when she went out on the patio to sit. She used to sit out there for hours at a time. Below I have exerted what she wrote, there is no date, nonetheless, it is the best gift that I have ever received from anyone:
"Roni -
I am so grateful for her love, support and encouragement. She has always told me and made me feel that I am a very intelligent, strong, good and caring person. She has always been there for me through all my illnesses, Hep-C, cancer treatments and operations and has helped me try to stay strong and positive which I have struggled with. She is an amazing person. No matter what adversities come our way, she always finds the positive in the situation. I really admire her and wish... and I am trying to be more like her in many ways. I fell in love with her because I believe we are soul mates and I think she is a very special person. I thank God for bringing such a kind person into my live. I also ask God to look over her and protect her every day, to provide her with lots of love, health and happiness. Roni really loves me unconditionally and I know I have been a pain in the ass at times and feel bad for that. I want to bring her as much support and happiness as she brought me. I love Roni so much. She is and Angel that God sent. What a gift from God."
Lin was my angel. She changed my life. Rest in peace my love.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESOVrc4K3CQ&feature=related
Bon Jovi - Thank You For Loving Me
It's hard for me to say the things I want to say sometimes
There's no one here but you and me
And that broken old street light
Lock the doors
We'll leave the world outside
All I've got to give to you
Are these five words when I
Chorus:
Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn't see
For parting my lips
When I couldn't breathe
Thank you for loving me
Thank you for loving me
I never knew I had a dream
Until that dream was you
When I look into your eyes
The sky's a different blue
Cross my heart
I wear no disguise
If I tried, you'd make believe
That you believed my lies
Chorus:
Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn't see
For parting my lips
When I couldn't breathe
Thank you for loving me
You pick me up when I fall down
You ring the bell before they count me out
If I was drowning you would part the sea
And risk your own life to rescue me
Solo
Lock the doors
We'll leave the world outside
All I've got to give to you
Are these five words when I
Chorus:
Thank you for loving me
For being my eyes
When I couldn't see
You parted my lips
When I couldn't breathe
Thank you for loving me
Thank you for loving me
